This question has been asked and never truly answered for generations. Getting married is filled with lots of awesome experiences and, most importantly, lots of expectations. While some of these expectations might be reasonable, some are simply outrageous.
 |
| Photo by Sandy Millar on Unsplash |
Ladies:
Expecting your spouse to give up Friday night drinks with the boys: Outrageous
A more reasonable approach might be to ask him to leave some nights open for you and the family.
Expecting him to grow up after you guys are married: Sorry, no magic formula
If he was childish when you married him, he just might be that way for a while. Don’t expect a wedding ring to change the person he is overnight. Life experiences are what mold us all. However, we all learn different lessons from our experiences.
Talking to every friend about your marital problems: Stop
Yes, it is good to talk, and we all know that’s what friends are for, but try not to make your marital problems the subject of every conversation with the girls. Keeping people out of your problems will help you reasonably assess the situation without the heated opinions of others who are not in your situation.
Before you get too excited, guys:
Expecting your wife to give up all her single girlfriends: Outrageous
Simply put, don’t choose your wife’s friends; she is grown and can do it on her own
Don’t criticize the way she dresses: Subtle hints work best
Take her shopping and take more interest in helping her shop, pick the stuff you would like her to try on, and compliment her when she does. She will start to pick up on what you like.
Talking to guy friends who are in shaky marriages will get you nowhere. Don’t
That should speak for itself.
Marriage is filled with many compromises and is a lot of work but well worth the trouble. Love and talk to each other, even when you really don’t care to hear what the other person has to say. Listen to each other and let the words have meaning.
Love is precious; having someone to love is divine. Best of luck as you journey on.
Both people in a marriage can learn through living in unity to have unspoken languages, commitment, compromise and communication. Marriage is patience and love is kind. Marriage can be truly divine.
Well said. Marriage is a gift from God, always keep God in your union.